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2nd-Mar-2009 07:21 pm(no subject)
silvanime
I came across this site recently and thought I'd post about it here. It looks like it has some good resources for journaleers.
28th-Jun-2008 05:40 pm - Pet prompt
journaleers
Ran across this in the book Little Indulgences: More than 400 ways to be good to yourself and thought you might enjoy it.

"Write down...the story of a pet you had as a child. If you didn't have a real pet, did you have an imaginary one? If you didn't have an imaginary one then, would you like one now?"
20th-Jun-2008 10:12 pm - If these walls could talk
sparkle lightning bugs
(copied from my personal journal, because RHR asked :))


To those of you that know me personally, I may have hinted about this little flaw of mine before. I can't paint like a normal human. I know how. I should tape off and use rollers and paint one wall at a time all that crap but I just can't. There's no heart in that perfunctory method, even if it is effective.

I prefer to use a brush. I like the feel of it in my hand, the way it pours a part of me out on to the walls through my fingertips. I like to take my time, be bathed in the color. Paint a portion of each wall - enough to get a feel of the color in the room before I go about tackling larger chunks of the room.

There's a problem or two with this method of mine. Well, that's not true. It's not the method that's inherently flawed. It's that the method is ill-suited to my living arrangements. I can't afford to completely clear a room and devote a couple of solid days to painting a room (because it's all me - Matt doesn't even want to help), so I end up spending weeks, even months finishing a room. I lose steam. I lose interest. Maybe you wouldn't notice, but there's at least a portion of a wall in every room that's partially unpainted. Usually near the ceiling or behind heavy furniture, but unfinished nonetheless. The walls, the projects stand incomplete, staring at me, screaming, 'Fail! FAIL! EPIC FAIL!' and yet, I can't change it. Can't bring myself to paint any other way, almost hurts to think about it.

Those of you I count among my friends here, I honestly believe wouldn't notice or wouldn't care to see these, my failings. Wouldn't judge me for them, think less of me because of them.

I think that's the deep-down dirty problem with a friendship or two that have recently floundered. Whether it was intentional or not, I have been weighed, I have been measured and I have been found wanting by their standards. It hurts, but I won't stand for it. I know I deserve better.
must keep writing
Remember this homework assignment? I started it in February, as soon as it was assigned, and still haven't finished it!

I think my problem with the assignment is that I take my habits for granted and, often at least, don't give them much conscious thought. Also, lately, with working two jobs, one of which seems to be laid off more often than not, the habits I've developed play out differently from day to day (with my schedule), and from week to week (ie. whether I'm on both jobs or only have one to worry about).

Anyway. I'm still not done the Habits homework. However, I think I found a trick, in my net browsing, that might help me finish the assignment! I just read the PMARCA Guide to Personal Productivity. Among all the ideas to improve productivity, there is are a couple of related tips that relate to Habits:
* Create a Habits list - for the repetitive tasks you do at work or in your home; the things you do more by rote than by conscious thought.
* Simple To-Do List - make a list of three to five important or significant things to accomplish today (or tomorrow, if you like prepping the night before) on a 3x5 index card or in a planner.
* The Anti-To-Do List - on the reverse of your T-D, write down everything you accomplish in the day, as you finish tasks.

I think the Habits List will be extremely useful for completing the February homework and I'm really looking forward to getting started on it - tomorrow. :D
journaleers
Hello all again.

I've been doing a bit of soul-searching, both for myself and for this community. And I believe this will be the last roll-call announcement for a while.

I think the journaleers have been a supportive, relatively upbeat community throughout its days, but its membership activity has been dwindling for some time now.

So tell me: have you been journaling? If you have, keep it up! It is a wonderful thing you do for yourself, or maybe for others down the road who will read your journal and think, "Wow! He/she went through the exact same thing I did!"

If, down the line, you have a journal entry you feel is worth posting to the group, please do. If you feel the need to start some new activity, to move in a new (hopefully journaling-related) direction in this group, please do.

This is our community, not mine. It is for us to creatively and organically grow and change and give new life to. Open yourself to the possibilities that it has.

Peace and happy journaling to all.
-RHR
career
Journaleer Homework January:
Imagine you are member of the opposite sex. You can run with this in several different ways.

1) Write a creative entry about how a typical day might be. How is it different?
2) Focus on the serious aspects: how does society treat you differently? How would you imagine you'd act differently? Where do you think you'd be in life if you'd been born male/female?
3) Focus on the silly and menial ways your life might be different.
4) Go through your day watching for the different ways people treat men and women. Write down what you see and imagine how those differences might make you feel.
5) All of the above!


As I was growing up, people would ask - "What do you want to be when you grow up" and my answer at one stage was "I want to be a Daddy." I was a tomboy for a long time, stocky, short hair and was consistently mistaken for a boy until I was 10 or 11. I claim that my Mum wanted my hair kept short, and she counter claims that it was my choice.

I do still wonder what it must be like to be a man - how one makes different choices, receives different treatment an doffers, but how one must also reach and fulfill different expectations.

I struggle still with the shape of me and how far I match the image of "woman". I feel still that I am large lass, slightly ungainly and clumsy, not feminine or fragile enough. Not delicate, not graceful. I remember asking my Mum once, "Am I pretty?" The answer hung unanswered in the air. Isn't it interesting that I lay some of the "blame" at my Mother?

I struggle at the moment that my body is refusing to act in a maternal fashion - I am still waiting to have kids, still struggling with the pain of endometriosis. And yet I look at myself in the mirror and am reassured by what I see. I have an interesting face, not beautiful, but open, interesting, friendly, marked with smile lines. I am attractive enough. I dress in a professional way and I give out confidence. I hold my space in the world well. I have a strong body, I have stamina, I am stubborn, I have strength and keep going, running, swimming, running, yoga.

I think I'll accept the frailities, the strengths, the complications and the humour of being a woman!
19th-Mar-2008 10:01 pm - Feb: Habits
career
Tell us about your habits, good, bad, harmless, quirky. List'em out, write'em up and tell us about new ones you'd like to start, or some you'd like to quit.

Good Habits
reading at every opportunity
regular blogging
smiling
walking to work
getting to inbox zero
making the bed
contact friends
hugging mr.ncot
phoning family
punctuality at work
making lists :-)
taking a snapshot a day
being grateful
running once a week
swimming once a week
tracking our finances regularly

Bad Habits
drinking bucketsloads of tea
being late for work
being late or slightly late for friends
worrying without purpose
leaving kitchen stuff on the side for the kitchen fairies
not loading or unloading the dishwasher (see point above!)
gettting distracted doing one job and starting 10 others
power procrastination
moaning and whinging
cleaning teeth whilst wandering round flat

New Habits
buying fresh flowers once a week
practice yoga regularly
drink more water
be more patient
cook more regularly
clean flat more consistently
cut down on caffeine
cut down on alcohol
18th-Mar-2008 12:14 pm - Roll Call, March 18, 2008
journaleers
I've been away from the computer the last several days, welcoming my sweetheart home from his service trip. So I'm awfully late on posting roll call.

He is home, and all is well. I wrote quite a bit while he was gone, and so did he! He hasn't kept a journal for a long time, but kept one on his trip.

Anyway, have your journaled this week?

Don't forget the TOTM! Recurring Dreams
9th-Mar-2008 09:23 pm - Roll Call, March 8, 2008
journaleers
Hello again! All is well here in the RHR household, although it has been a crazy week! I wish I had one more day in this weekend, but it is what it is.

Hope you are all well, and journaling! How has your journal been going? Have you been journaling this week?

Don't forget the March TOTM! Recurring dreams. Day dreams, night dreams, nightmares, beautiful fantasies. Tell us about them!
3rd-Mar-2008 08:57 pm - March TOTM: Reoccurring dreams?
journaleers
Do you have any reoccurring dreams? You know, the one that wakes you up a lot scared, or confused, or just wondering, "what in the world was my subconscious doing?"

Maybe you don't. But how about reoccurring "waking" dream? A goal you constantly come back to. A daydream you wish was reality.

Tell us about your dream. How does it make you feel. What surprises you about it, or frustrates you.

Have fun!
2nd-Mar-2008 06:17 pm - Roll Call!
journaleers
Hello! Welcome to the first roll call in March! Hope you are doing well and journaling regularly, if not often.

I'm still searching for a Topic of the Month for March. Ideas welcome!

Let us know how you're doing?
27th-Feb-2008 04:09 pm - February TOTM: Habits
silvanime
Tell us about your habits, good, bad, harmless, quirky. List'em out, write'em up and tell us about new ones you'd like to start, or some you'd like to quit.

I'm in a time of transitions at the moment and I've discovered that makes things interesting in terms of habits. On the one hand, developing new habits becomes almost impossible for me. As I write this it's the morning of my first day back at uni. In a bit under two hours I'll be attending the first class of my Honours year. That means a new schedule--itself a new habit of sorts to get used to and I find that while I'm concentrating on that I have no room in my mind for remembering new habits.

Perhaps this is a little strange. Society seems to hold that times of transition are the best times for developing new habits--look at New Years, for example, the transition from one year to the next. Or think about moving house; how many people promise themselves they'll keep it cleaner than their last place? I think the reason new habits in a time of transition don't work for me is because I find all the change to be overwhelming.

On the other hand, I find times of transition often highlight the habits I've already developed. For examile, I always carry a pen and journal with me so that I can write down ideas and inspirations, things I need to do, things I've forgotten and remembered again. And there's an awful lot of those at times like these!

There's also the habit of journalling I've developed. I find it helps me work through times of transition and it helps me to just be able to get things out of my head.

Times of transition also show up the half-formed habits I have, like making my bed most days. Times of transition often make my room explode with paper and other sundry items, so having my bed made at least gives me a flat space where I can sort through things. And just last night I found myself laying out my clothes for today (thanks, FLYlady), an old habit I've let slide.

There are three habits I struggle with the most--writing regularly, exercising regularly and meditating regularly. I always find I can get maybe one going, but never all going at once. It makes it feel like there's not enough hours in the day. I'm not going to give up though.

The strangest habit I have is the way I answer the phone. I've lived in the same house for 25 years and I always answer our phone by reciting the phone number. About ten years ago an extra digit was added to the beginning. I still never remember to include it. It's also a terrible habit to have when I am housesitting...
25th-Feb-2008 09:29 pm - February TOTM: Habits
laughing
So, I started making a list of my habits. Here you go. I'm sure there are tons more, but this is a start.

The Good
- I tend to walk or ride my bike as much as possible in good weather.
- I reach for cereal or fruit for snacks, and water or milk instead of soda
- I keep a stash of greeting cards on hand so I don't have to emergency card shop
- I (almost) always smile when I answer the phone. I swear, people can hear your smile.
- I turn lights off when I leave a room. Almost to a fault; I tend to turn the lights off on my husband.

The Bad
- I procrastinate
- I worry and over-think decisions
- I pick at my skin
- I spend too much time at the computer
- I keep lots of strange things that I think I can find another use for.

The Weird
- I eat cereal almost every morning for breakfast, and feel weird when I don't.
- I call my husband by my brother's name and vice versa whenever my family is around.
- I have to have a drink of water right before I go to bed.
- I pick up rhythms from electronics and any repetitive sounds...I can't sleep with a ticking clock in the room!

New Habits I want to Start
- writing letters to my friends and grandmothers
- writing more often in my journal
- stick to a cleaning routine
- take better care of my skin
24th-Feb-2008 07:19 pm - Roll Call, February 24, 2008
journaleers
Hello again! Another week, hopefully a good one. We had lovely weather for us. 40 degrees, which melted some snow, but we're supposed to get clobbered again tomorrow! I'm jealous of everyone who is watching the crocuses bloom! Mine are still under 2 feet of snow!

Anyway, hope you are well. Have you journaled this week?

And don't forget to tell us about your habits!
17th-Feb-2008 01:14 pm - Roll Call, February 17, 2008
journaleers
Another week! We're stuck inside today...have a bit of a blizzard. That's okay; there is plenty for me to do (and I'm shirking most of my duties. :-)

How goes the journaling? I wrote my weekly entry last night in my paper journal. Been pretty absent from LJ. Oh well, such as it is.

Reminder: Don't forget to tell us about your habits!
10th-Feb-2008 05:35 pm - Roll Call: February 10, 2008
journaleers
Hello again! I can't believe a week has gone by so quickly. We had a record-breaking snow here in Iowa: 8 1/2 inches in 24 hours. That isn't much by some standards, but quite a lot around here. It seems like we just get the drive cleared when it snows again! We're looking forward to spring.

Not sure I've done my journal entry for the week, been pretty busy with other things and dealing with the weather.

Have you journaled this week? What type of things keep you from achieving your journaling goals?

Take care!

And don't forget our TOTM! Habits

What are your habits, good, bad, harmless, quirky? List 'em out, write 'em up, tell us why you want to quit, or any new ones you want to create!
5th-Feb-2008 06:40 pm - February TOTM: Habits
journaleers
Tell us about your habits, good, bad, harmless, quirky. List'em out, write'em up and tell us about new ones you'd like to start, or some you'd like to quit.
3rd-Feb-2008 05:52 pm - Roll Call, February 3, 2008
journaleers
Hello all journaleers! Hope you are well. We are surviving the crazy Iowa weather. We had almost 60 Degrees F on Monday, but dropped to a low of -20 F in about 30 hours!

I've been doing at least one or two journal entries a week, but not so much online journaling.

How about you? Have you been journaling? Paper or online? How do you reconcile the two?
4th-Feb-2008 08:02 am - January TOTM: Sex Change
silvanime
Imagine you are member of the opposite sex. You can run with this in several different ways:

1) Write a creative entry about how a typical day might be. How is it different?
2) Focus on the serious aspects: how does society treat you differently? How would you imagine you'd act differently? Where do you think you'd be in life if you'd been born male/female?
3) Focus on the silly and menial ways your life might be different.
4) Go through your day watching for the different ways people treat men and women. Write down what you see and imagine how those differences might make you feel.
5) All of the above!

Have fun!




I'm a bit late with this, but better late than never I suppose. It's not even really structured around the homework questions, but just some ramblings.

I'm a bit of a tomboy myself. In my natural habitat, I'm most often found in jeans and sneakers. My hair, though long, is almost always tied back in a plait or a bun. When I first started thinking about the homework question for this month I found it difficult to think of how being male would be much different to the way things are already. I suppose there would be lots of little things that would be different--like not having to wear a bra or deal with periods and being able to go to the toilet pretty much wherever I wanted--but those details are so small to me, so ordinary, that I take them for granted to the point where I can't really imagine what it would be like if things were otherwise.

I guess what it comes down to is that I tend to take body for granted. That's both my body and other people's bodies. I'm not saying that I don't react to people based on appearance. I certainly do. And it's true that I react differently to an attractive man that I do to an attractive woman. But I wouldn't say I react differently to people who I don’t find attractive; they’re just people to me, personalities that I can engage with.

There was one experience I had the other week that really highlighted this for me. I play Dungeons and Dragons and this particular day I had a game to play. I’m the only girl in the group, but that’s not something I usually notice. However, we were just taking a break for lunch and were all set to pile into the car to go and buy something to eat. The car belonged to the girlfriend of one of the players and she was driving us there. Automatically he went to sit in the front seat when he was stopped by one of the other guys, who suggested I should sit in the front seat. It was only then that I realised I’d be squished in the back seat with a pair of males. I hadn’t even considered that might be uncomfortable for them, because I didn’t consider it uncomfortable for me. I certainly hadn’t thought about it in terms of our gender.

I said earlier that the little details of being female are so small and ordinary to me that I take them for granted and couldn’t imagine it otherwise. D&D provides another example of this. I’ve never played a male character, though guys I know have played female characters (and some quite perceptively, at that). I’ve never done it because I feel like I just can’t wrap my head around those little details that would really make the character come alive. I feel like I could never do a male character justice.

I hope all of this makes sense. I found it surprisingly difficult to write, perhaps because I’m articulating something I don’t really think about consciously.
27th-Jan-2008 08:17 pm - Roll Call, January 27, 2008
journaleers
Hello all!

I need to sit down tonight to do my journal entry of the week. It's been a good, busy week, but I need to learn to carve out time to write!

How's your journaling? Have you been able to find the time?

Last call for the Gender-bending January homework! Don't forget to share with us what your life might be like if you were a member of the opposite sex!
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